Since the moment you were born, your brain’s main function has been to keep you alive.
And in order to do so, one of the first things it learned was to adapt to its environment.
Because if it didn’t, it knew it wouldn’t last long in this world.
After all, you were completely dependent on your environment to survive.
It’s not like you could just walk off and live without your caretakers.
And because adapting to your environment was so crucial to your survival, your brain’s entire structure was built around it.
While the positive events in your early childhood may have played an important part in your life…
…it’s moments where you experienced anything less than nurturing than had the most profound impact on your development.
Because those were the moments your brain had to adapt to in order to survive.
If you didn’t learn from these difficult events, they were more likely to happen again.
And unfortunately, this is what likely became the foundation of your identity.
If your parents were often critical, you most likely internalized that you were not good enough.
If your parents didn’t take care of your needs, you likely learned that you didn’t matter, or that you
couldn’t rely on other people.
If your parents split up, you may have thought it was your fault, and internalized that if you didn’t act properly, you would lose the ones you loved.
Those are just a few examples of how this can play out.
But those lessons made you adopt strategies and patterns of behaviors that you are likely still using today.
Let me say that again.
As an adult, you are butting head against the same issues again and again because, more likely than not, you are consciously or unconsciously still using strategies and behaviors that you developed when you were still a young child in order to survive the environment you grew up in.
And that’s what’s preventing you from reaching the level of success you’ve always dreamed about.
Your coping mechanisms, beliefs, and patterns of behaviors are outdated.
But the reality is that you’ve been using them for so long you’ve probably made them part of your identity, and you use them to filter how you see yourself, your place in the world, and how you believe the world works.
“I’m like this,”
“I can’t change,”
“This is who I am,”
“This is how life works.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“I can’t go after what I want.”
But none of that is true.
The reason you’re so attached to those beliefs is that, at one point in your life, you needed them to
If your very life depended on adopting these beliefs, it makes sense that you wouldn’t want to stop believing them.
You might DIE.
Or at least, that’s what your brain wants you to think.
This fear is literally hardwired into your unconscious mind.
And that’s why it’s so difficult to move past it.
But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
Just imagine for a second…
If you didn’t let your beliefs, your fears, your shame, and your emotions stop you from pursuing the things you want – and I mean the ones you really want, the things you may even be afraid to admit that you want…
What could your life be like?
Would you be working in a different field?
Dating different people?
Building stronger relationships?
Reaching for incredibly ambitious goals?
Asking for what you want, whether it is a raise, a date, or a promotion?
Starting a business from your passion?
And what if it could become a reality?
If you’re serious about letting go of your old patterns and ready to create the life you always wanted, join me at the Deep Inner Growth Intensive on June 21-23, in Los Angeles.
We’ll take you on a deep dive into your unconscious mind, identify the places where you have been getting stuck, and learn to move past them for good.